There is no one kind of lesbian sex. Some people want strong clitoral buzz. Some want a soft toy for G-spot play. Others want a strap-on, a toy both partners can feel, or a small first buy. The best choice is the one that fits your body and the kind of touch you like.
These seven lesbian sex toys cover a solo sex life and play with a lover. The guide is for LGBTQ+ women, nonbinary adults, and others in the LGBTQ community who find it useful. All picks are for adults. Ask before you add a toy to sex, and stop if a touch does not feel right.
The 7 best lesbian sex toys at a glance
| Sex toy | Best use and key facts |
|---|---|
| Dame Pom Palm Vibrator | Best overall; soft palm shape for wide or firm clitoral touch |
| Dame Arc G-Spot Vibrator | Best for G-spot play; 7.5 inches long with a curved soft bulb |
| We-Vibe Sync 2 | Best hands-free pick; app control and up to two hours of use |
| Sportsheets Cobalt Strap On | Best harness; fits hips up to 60 inches and has three O-rings |
| NYTC Shilo | The Original Pack and Play | Best harness dildo; soft, bendable, and made by a queer-owned brand |
| Lovehoney Double Take Double-Ended Strap-On Dildo | Best shared dildo; two ends and a harness that fits up to 65 inches |
| ROMP Riot Rechargeable Silicone Bullet Vibrator | Best budget pick; small, rechargeable, and made for outside use |
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Best overall: Dame Pom Palm Vibrator
Pom bends with your hand, so you can press its tip on one spot or let the soft sides spread the buzz. It has five speeds and five pulse modes. The small shape also leaves room for hands, mouths, or a strap-on during shared play.
Dame calls the shell medical grade silicone. It is waterproof, though Dame gives no IPX score. A full charge takes about two hours and gives about one hour on high. Some users want more force, and the buttons can be easy to bump. Dame lists a three-year warranty.
Best G-spot vibrator: Dame Arc G-Spot Vibrator
Arc has a curved, soft bulb for firm touch on the front wall of the vagina or front hole. You can also use the bulb for clitoral stimulation. It is 7.5 inches long and 1.4 inches wide at the bulb, with five speeds and five patterns.
The charge lasts about 90 minutes on high. The bend is gentle, so it may feel better than a hard shaft for some bodies. Yet a soft tip gives less firm aim. People who like deep, hard pressure may want more force.
Best wearable vibrator: We-Vibe Sync 2
Sync 2 has one arm that sits in the vagina or front hole and one that rests on the clitoris. The C shape can be worn during some kinds of penetration. A partner can change its ten power levels with the We-Vibe app, even from far away.
It is made with body-safe silicone and has an IPX7 water score. The battery can run for up to two hours. Fit is the key catch. Bodies have different gaps and curves, so it may shift or press the wrong spot. App links can fail, too.
Best strap-on harness: Sportsheets Cobalt Strap On
Cobalt is a four-strap harness that adjusts to hips up to 60 inches. It comes with 1.5-, 1.75-, and 2-inch rubber O-rings. That range lets you swap in many dildos with a wide, flared base. The dildo is not in the box.
A small pocket can hold a bullet vibe, but Sportsheets does not give its size. Do not guess that your bullet will fit. The harness is machine safe to wash. Its exact fabric is not listed, which matters if your skin reacts to some cloth.
Best harness dildo: NYTC Shilo | The Original Pack and Play
Shilo comes from New York Toy Collective, a queer-owned brand. Its soft outer layer, firm inner layer, and bendable core make it fit for packing and sex. It has 6.25 inches of insertable length, a 3-inch base, and a cup that sticks to smooth walls.
The maker says Shilo is harness compatible with standard O-rings from 1.5 to 2 inches. That range matches all three rings in the Cobalt set. Test the hold before hard thrusts. A soft shaft can feel good, but it may be harder to aim.
Best double dildo: Lovehoney Double Take Double-Ended Strap-On Dildo
Double Take is 12 inches from end to end. One side gives 7 inches of insertable length, while the other gives 5 inches. A flat part sits between the two ends. The soft harness can help hold it in place and fits hips up to 65 inches.
This type can give both partners a sense of fullness at once. It can also slip as angles change. Start slow, add water-based lube, and treat the first few tries as a chance to learn the fit. The item was marked as last stock, so check that it can ship.
Best budget vibrator: ROMP Riot Rechargeable Silicone Bullet Vibrator
Riot is a small, low-cost clitoral vibe with six speeds and four pulse modes. Its 70 x 20 mm body is easy to hold or place between bodies. It runs for about one hour and takes about two hours to charge. That makes it a beginner-friendly solo toy.
This is an outside-use toy. Do not put it in the vagina, front hole, or anus. It has an IPX5 score, which means it can take splashes but not a bath. The body uses soft-touch plastic with a silicone cap, so it is not all silicone.
What to look for in a sex toy
Start with the kind of touch you want.
A palm or bullet vibrator works on the vulva and clitoris. A curved shaft adds G-spot pressure. A wearable toy frees both hands, but its inner and outer arms must fit your shape. A dildo can give steady depth with no motor noise.
New to penetration? Start short and slim. You do not need to take a toy to its full depth. A thick, firm dildo asks more of the body than a soft one. Warm up, use lube, and let the person being touched set the pace.
Check material, power, and water claims.
Nonporous silicone is easy to wash and is a sound pick for shared sex. Hard ABS plastic is nonporous, too. Skip a toy with no clear material facts, a strong smell, cracks, or a sticky skin. Soft does not always mean safe.
More power is not always more fun. No toy can promise maximum pleasure. A broad, low rumble may feel deep, while a high buzz may feel sharp. Noise can matter in a shared home. For bath or shower play, look for a clear IPX score. “Splashproof” does not mean you can sink the toy in water.
Match the dildo, base, and harness.
Measure your hips where the straps will sit. Then check the size limit. The right size stays firm without pain. For an O-ring harness, match the ring hole to the shaft near the base. The base must be wider than the ring, or the dildo may pull through.
A strap-on can work for vaginal, front-hole, or anal play when the dildo has the right base and the maker allows that use. It may also work for grinding with no penetration. Some toys that mimic a penis look lifelike. A non-realistic shape can feel just as good. No color, even bright pink, makes a toy more safe or more queer.
How queer couples can use sex toys with care
- Read the toy guide and check for cuts, split seams, or a weak charge port.
- Wash hands and the toy. Use warm water and mild, unscented soap unless the guide says more.
- Add water-based lube. It works with every toy in this list and with most barriers.
- Ask before each new act. Start on a low speed or with shallow depth.
- Stop for pain, numb skin, blood, burning, or a toy that gets too hot.
- Wash, dry, and store each part on its own after play.
Put a new condom on a shared insertable toy for each person and each body opening. Clean it between uses as well. The Planned Parenthood toy guide gives clear steps. Barriers cut risk, but no barrier blocks all skin-to-skin spread. The CDC condom guide explains those limits.
Need a latex-free barrier? See the best non-latex condoms. If a partner uses vacuum gear, the guide to penis pumps covers fit and red flags. For a new meet, this Sniffies map review has plain tips on consent, privacy, and safer plans.
Discreet packaging and questions about lesbian sex toys
What is a good first lesbian sex toy?
A small outside vibe is a low-stress place to start. ROMP Riot is cheap, simple, and has no need for insertion. Dame Pom costs more but gives a soft grip and a wider kind of touch. Start on low and add more only if it feels good.
How do I use a sex toy with a partner?
Talk while clothes are still on. Pick who will hold or wear the toy. Name the body part and kind of touch that are okay. Keep lube and a clean towel near. Ask again when you change speed, depth, toy, or body opening.
Are strap-ons safe to share?
They can be shared with care. Wash the dildo as its maker says. Put on a fresh condom for each person or opening. If it stays with one partner and one opening, use a new barrier for each sex act. Wash cloth straps as their label says, and let all parts dry. Do not share a porous, split, or hard-to-clean toy.
How do I size a strap-on harness?
Measure the hips or waist where you want it to sit. Check that number against the brand's size range. A harness should stay firm without pinching or making skin numb. Match the O-ring to the dildo shaft and wide base.
Will the order come in a plain box?
All brands on this list state that direct orders use plain or discreet shipping packs. The name on a label or card bill can still differ by shop. A shop may say it ships from the USA or offers free shipping over $65, but check the live cart. Return rules for opened sex toys are often strict.
Can I use silicone lube on a silicone toy?
Do not assume you can. Some silicone lubes can harm some silicone toys. Water-based lube is the easy pick for all seven here. If you use another kind, read both labels and test a small hidden spot first.
A great toy should make room for trust, fun, and a clear “no.” Pick the type that suits the touch you want, not the one that looks most bold. For more candid guides to queer sex and dating, visit OutProud.